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When Life Hurts
November 6, 2015, 2:14 PM

I lost a dear friend this week.  Even typing that sentence brings heartache.  She was more than just a friend, she was like family.  

In life we are sometimes blessed to know someone who, know matter how long a period of time, or in this case how short a period of time you know them, they find  a special place in your heart.  A person who refuses to wear a frown no matter what troubles or difficulties they are dealing with.  A person who is so pleasant and positive no matter how much they may hurt or suffer.  A person that no matter how hard you try to be a blessing to them, you always find yourself the one who is blessed to know them.

As a pastor, I am not supposed to have favorite church members, but I admit that this friend was one of my favorites.  When she left it was not for forever.  I had to say goodbye for now, but because Her life and testimony showed her hope was in Jesus, I know that I will see her again.  

Even with the hope of truth that I have because of her testimony, it still hurts.  Life does that sometimes…it hurts.  So when it hurts I suggest you do the following and I will try to do the same.

1.  Cry.  Cry because of the hurt but also cry because of love.  Cry because although it does not have to be forever, its never easy to be away from someone who is so dear to your heart for any period of time.  Cry because of loss, or pain, or hardship.  Cry because it will do you good to cry.  Cry because it will not do you good to not cry.  

2.  Cry with others.  Cry with others that are hurting.  Mourning is an important process and crying is part of the healing that needs to take place.  Cry with others to show your compassion an support of them as well.  Crying for too long on your own can lead to depression but crying with others allows you to share the burden and help others in their healing as well.  God will both send others to cry with you in your time of need as well as send you to others to cry with and offer comfort in their time of need.

3.  Cry out to God.  Ultimately God is the one we must turn to. While He often uses others to offer care, comfort, and support, but God is the only one that can truly mend broken hearts and bring real healing when life hurts.  If we know Jesus as our Savior and Lord then he will walk with us each step of the way and gladly shoulder our burden as well as wrap His arms of love around us for comfort and carry us when we no longer have the strength to take another step.  If you don’t know Jesus as your Savior and Lord you can can by turning to Him in Faith and He can touch your heart and life.  He may not always take away the pain but He will provide comfort and peace if we turn to Him and trust in Him.  Cry out to God today for comfort, healing and peace.

My friend may be gone from this earth but She is still my friend.  She is gone but not forgotten.  She is gone but not gone forever.  She is no longer hurting, suffering, or in pain because She is with Him in Heaven.  Because of this hope that I have for her, and can have for myself through Jesus Christ work on the Cross, the pain is not quite as bad and life does not hurt quite so much.  Because I have a hope in a God that I can cry out to.

Psalm 18:6

"In my distress I called upon the LORD, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, even into his ears."

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